More serious thoughts from yesterday and today.....
This is how much things have changed: a time when selfishness did not rule, but rather obedience
and the decision not to grieve those who most loved you.
"His guardian, Father Morgan, viewing Edith as the reason for Tolkien's having "muffed" his exams
and considering it "altogether unfortunate" that his surrogate son was romantically involved with
an older, Protestant woman, prohibited him from meeting, talking to, or even corresponding with her
until he was 21. He obeyed this prohibition to the letter, with one notable early exception, over
which Father Morgan threatened to cut short his university career if he did not stop.
In a 1941 letter to his son Michael, Tolkien recalled,
I had to choose between disobeying and grieving (or deceiving) a guardian who had been a father to me,
more than most fathers ... and 'dropping' the love-affair until I was 21. I don't regret my decision,
though it was very hard on my lover. But it was not my fault. She was completely free and under no vow
to me, and I should have had no just complaint (except according to the unreal romantic code) if she
had got married to someone else. For very nearly three years I did not see or write to my lover. It was
extremely hard, especially at first. The effects were not wholly good: I fell back into folly and slackness
and misspent a good deal of my first year at college.
On the evening of his 21st birthday Tolkien wrote to Edith......"
Now, young people put themselves first, without regard for who they are disobeying or hurting.
There was a time when everybody wanted to be 'the smart kid'.
Now, TV shows (where they used to mock being the 'dumb' kid) they now mock and ridicule the smart kid,
making it seem as if that it not who they want to be.
TV shows used to point kids in the direction of not being the dumb kid, no matter how cool they might seem
- think 'the Fonz' - Fonzie always reinforced being good, doing good, studying hard....
Now think Alex from the show Family Ties, a newer generation of TV viewing... Alex was mocked and made
to look the fool, or the outcast, for being the studious sort.
Think about the even newer show, The Middle, and how they glorify Axel(note how this is an anagram of Alex)
who is portrayed as a shameless slacker, and yet made to look successful, while the serious, good,
studious Sue, is made to look a fool.
Other thoughts: (I decided to watch Family Ties)
Remember the days of one phone in the house? When it was a big deal to get a second line?
and when you might talk privately? That was the beginning of change too... having too much...
privacy is overrated... Adam and Eve tried to do things in secret too...
whose leading is it when privacy is our greatest desire?
There's a saying for people in recovery... 'You're only as sick as your secrets'...
when a thing is brought into the light it loses its grip and power over you.
In other words light defeats the powers of the one who wants us to do things in secret.