Thanks Zakiah for your heartfelt caring and concern. It's already started. Mother-in-law wants to take over and I can already see that I will be marginalized from my own daughter. Today is a very miserable feeling day. I'm hoping that things will prove different, but not very hopeful with how things are looking. I had been hoping that mother-in-law and I would work as a team, not that she would be so intrusive into the lives of the kids... taking over and denying the lessons God wants for them to learn as new parents. She needs something to fill her life, and she is making the new baby it... taking away from the new parents the experiences that are necessary for them to grow. I feel that she wants to recapture motherhood, and perhaps the things she missed... and in so doing, will be denying our children those very same things. I must confess, it makes me angry. The babies are not for the grandparents, they are for the parents... but so easy for the new parents to want to hand over responsibility... make life easy... not experience what it is to give up freedoms... continue in selfishness... if someone provides them with an out. I do not think this is within God's plan. I believe it thwarts God's plan. I think grandparents should be there to help, to support, not to take over. It's so easy to take advantage when people are feeling sleep deprived and overwhelmed... but perseverance is what builds strength and character... learning to be unselfish... and I think that is what God's plan is.